I love that you bring this issue of forgiveness and letting go up to light. I have been thinking a lot about a similar issue, related to the “tit for tat” mentality. I grew up with a parent that was always keeping tabs of what others did and did not do for him. I often heard the “people only seek me when they want something from me” comments. For a long time it stayed in me, until I started questioning it; I did not want to be like that. I had to let it go, and it lightened my loadSo back to your point, forgiveness for me is also connected with expectations. The less you expect, the less you power you give others to hurt you, and thus less need for forgiveness. I am learning to accept that how other people act is more about them, and thus I don’t need to let it affect me. It is not easy, as you said, especially when they are close to you, but it is very empowering. Thank you for your heart-warming and thought-provoking issues. Much love, always. Alex
Thank you for your heartfelt comments. I am learning how to become a better "forgiver" as I am the queen of grudge keeping. Life-long learning is the key, yes? All the quotes from the post have deeply affected me. Let's see if I can put them into practice!
I love that you bring this issue of forgiveness and letting go up to light. I have been thinking a lot about a similar issue, related to the “tit for tat” mentality. I grew up with a parent that was always keeping tabs of what others did and did not do for him. I often heard the “people only seek me when they want something from me” comments. For a long time it stayed in me, until I started questioning it; I did not want to be like that. I had to let it go, and it lightened my loadSo back to your point, forgiveness for me is also connected with expectations. The less you expect, the less you power you give others to hurt you, and thus less need for forgiveness. I am learning to accept that how other people act is more about them, and thus I don’t need to let it affect me. It is not easy, as you said, especially when they are close to you, but it is very empowering. Thank you for your heart-warming and thought-provoking issues. Much love, always. Alex
Thank you for your heartfelt comments. I am learning how to become a better "forgiver" as I am the queen of grudge keeping. Life-long learning is the key, yes? All the quotes from the post have deeply affected me. Let's see if I can put them into practice!
Sending love, my friend. Hope you are well.
xoxo
A powerful topic--TY. Really love the T.D. Jakes and Oprah quotes!
Thank you. Those quotes!!! Man, they hit me in the face. I am struck by how they appeared in my feeds...just when I needed them.